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What is a divorce
Divorce is a term in which husband and wife and cut of their
relationship with each other and they are no longer for each other nor they can
share their bed. Its the most hateful thing in Islam and Society, causing negative impact on brain of children's and couple
Divorce in Islam
Ibn `Umar reported,
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be on him, said:
The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be on him, said:
"With Allah, the most detestable of all things
permitted is divorce." 1 (AD. 13 : 3.)
Reasons for divorce
There could be many reason for a divorce between a couple. But
the main and foremost reasons are not
1.loving the same way as before
If
the love and affection between both remains the same as in the starting, then
this would never happened, but what cause them not love the same way before? This
is the problem between both side. The main and foremost thing is understanding
, if the understanding between them is not well they will fall across. If you
want the same till the end then try “ sharing your thoughts feeling and bring
him/her under your trust and don’t lie in any condition”
2.Not fulfilling the commitments
These
types of partners are only fulfilling their desires, they are all busy in the
stuff which a normal man cant do e.g. spending nights outside etc. commitments
are part of a great relation ship and it enhance their relation beauty.
3.Cheating with the partner
After the birth of first child,
there is a lot change in woman physically and spiritually. All she focus and
thinks about her baby and busy with her all the time and its compulsory a new
born child needs it but with the passage of time she stop giving love and fulfilling
his desire. Which make him feel frustrated and start focusing on the things
which make him relax all the time.
4.Not giving much time
Well
in the present era its difficult for husband and wife to survive on one income
until unless they have a bussiness. So in that case both try to struggle and
work hard for their better life standard and to make their children’s education
good and fulfil their needs. In this life race they get tired after coming home
at evening at, so then they only want relaxation so then they go away from each
other which cause reasons for divorce. The main and basic purpose of a woman is
to look after his husband house which help in becoming beautiful house.
5.Getting interested in someone
Well
it’s a big issue nowadays due to social media and other stuff. It would be
funny but its reality that once a man lost physical interest in his women, then
he start loosing his interest and find some other women for his physical needs.
Well in my point of view couples should be exercise regularly for physical beauty
and also its good for health.
6.Not satisfying their need properly
Well
in some cases its possible that both are not satisfied from each other, but in
many cases its just a reason for divorce.
7.Not obeying each other
Respect
is ono of the best way to develop relationship between anyone. But in case of married couple
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Had it been
permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have
ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband.
You should be respecting each other in front of everyone and
also in the absence. If not then you should not be married.
Impact of divorce on children
After
divorce, its not the fact or truth that both live happily because there are
some attachment between them, memories, thoughts etc. but the main stake holder
in between these all is the children. Their deciding capabilities are far less
to decide weather to live with father or mother. And both trying to snatch them
from each other trying to convince mother is wrong /father is wrong. In these
all scenario all what happened is a negative impact on their brain. Which make
them frustrated, stressful, anxiety etc. And to get rid of this they start
approaching negative thing like drugs.
